I have concluded that we all are living the same Adult life. This gbasgbos of adulthood be like breakfast, na everybody dey chop am
May Recap
I genuinely thought I’d catch my breath this month of May. I fantasized about going on solo dates, pampering myself blablabla, and even wrote it in LWS EP4. Anyway, I’m here to tell you that the only fun thing I did this month was attend my friend’s introduction (that was cute and sweet sha).
At this point, my friends are tired of my daily rant about how exhausted I am. Ideally, I should take a break from work because I’m functioning on a low battery. Unfortunately, the policy/agreement is that I have to work for 6 months before I qualify to apply for official leave. This means I have to run with my low battery and a sprinkle of words of affirmation 🤣. The irony is that there is nothing to recap 🥴 as all I did was to continue pursuing deliverables and getting choked by tasks. I remain a premium pie in her blooming era regardless🥴.
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Life Lately
Aside from being a Product manager, storyteller/writer, there’s also the Sukurat who volunteers for the rights/well-being of children from low-income homes... I don't highlight this aspect of myself as much as I do other parts. Anyway, the month of May was also for service to humanity if that counts as “not working”.
In 2023, I started an initiative to visit children from under-resourced communities on Children’s Day with items to put smiles on their faces. I looked forward to throwing a Children’s Day party in one of those communities this year, however, 2024 came and there are other heavy financial commitments. The thought of canceling it crossed my mind, and then I ran to God (everything requires the God factor here 🌝). I settled with crowdfunding for the project, albeit, I was very skeptical and unwilling but I kept getting the nudge to. It’s been 19 days since I sent a broadcast message to 201 people out of my contacts and 69 people (at the time I wrote this) were kind enough to buy into my dream and donate which has amounted to a huge sum (na charity money o, don’t start thinking I have one money).
In a nutshell, My children’s day party is happening 🤩 . This project is so dear to my heart, although, planning it, running errands and all has been so stressful juggling it with my 9-5 (thankful for family and friends), the truth is MY HEART IS FULL! I am deeply grateful to God for making this dream a reality and sending kind people my way because omoo! men mount o men mount 💃. This newsletter will drop before the party, maybe I’ll tell you how it went in the next episode.
Adult Friendships…
I’m that person who always has a group of friends at every phase of my life. The idea of friendship makes sense to me regardless of what society thinks. I have different genuine friends that I can run to for various reasons. Not necessarily because I’ve consistently experienced solid ones, I think aside from family that you didn’t choose, you should be able to select some people that align with your values to do life with.
I don’t think I’m the best at making friends, however, over the years, I’ve maintained the same pattern of making new friends. We meet maybe as a schoolmate or colleague we become acquaintances, and then I study your personality, if we share similar interests, we pick conversations around that when we’re together and once I notice your values align with mine and the genuineness in your personality, I extend more love and care than I would a regular acquaintance and that’s it.
In the last decade, I’ve kept and nurtured the friendships I made with random girls I met on my first week in University and it has grown to something I’ll refer to as sisterhood. It’s not always rosy, but we’ve been intentional about disagreeing to agree. The older we get the better it gets and that’s the cherry on the cake. I have a friend of almost three decades and the friendship is still blooming. Friendship requires effort from all parties involved especially adult friendships. It’s enough that navigating adulthood in this century is tough for obvious reasons, the best thing you can do for yourself is to have your tribe, people you can call your core, people, or maybe a person you are unashamedly yourself with.
I’m aware that most times society has nothing good to say about friendships, especially Adult Female Friendships but trust me give it a shot, find your person(s), and make it work, bear in mind nobody is perfect, you inclusive, hence don’t expect friends without flaws, instead be ready to love them with their flaws (provided it isn’t a red flag) like you would your romantic partner. Also, maintain healthy boundaries.
Shoutout to the ones I call friends, and special shoutout to all my women, my sister-girls.
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Cheers!
Shukky (Chief storyteller LWS)
First of all, you’re amazingly gifted and I love how you share your gift of writing and storytelling, well done. Also, on adult friendships, I’ll say it’s really beautiful when you find your tribe. For someone like me that didn’t know how to be intentional about choosing friends, and really just learning about boundaries and limits, I really appreciate your take. Thank you Sis❤️
Running on a sprinkle of affirmations? Shukky please 😂. Congratulations on your project, if you're based on Ibadan I'd like to volunteer.
Adult friendships takes a lot of sacrifices but I guess if you find your tribe you're good. I hope I find mine soon 😁